Approaching women or even
starting conversation with them could be tough thing to do for a normal nice
guy. The reasons for this are lack of confidence with women and fear of
rejection – she might not like me. What kind of guy women like to be with?
Here are few basic things to work on-
1. Get an I-NEVER-get-embarrassed attitude:
A very rare many of guys have this attitude naturally. However with some work any one can acquire this. To get this attitude you need to work on yourself. Once you get this attitude, it would give you ultimate powerful confidence and you’d never hesitate to approach any women, even attractive ones.
This could be backbone of your confidence. You should be the guy who never (literally) get embarrassed. Yes, especially in front of a woman. Personally I use humor as a tool to come out of any embarrassing situation. I have gone though the worst of embarrassing scenarios mentally and prepared a humorous response for each one of the scenarios. I have tested some of them in real scenarios – sometime intentionally creating such scenarios. You can try humor. There could be other ways to get this attitude. So find your way of getting this attitude.
2. Maintain hygiene:
This is something that most of the guys suck big time at. Women in general maintain good hygiene and for the obvious reason they like men who maintain hygiene. And moreover by maintaining good hygiene, you’d start feeling good about yourself, which in turn would boost your confidence.
3. Be a good dresser:
Even if you are a socially-bankrupt-bald-headed-beer-belly guy, if you are a good dresser you still have chance with ladies. Good dressing is powerful and gives a message that you are a high status guy. You remember “the complete man” Raymond ad. Yes, women like men who dress well; and for that matter everybody likes you if you have good dressing sense. Good dresses cost as much as bad ones – be wise.
4. Become ‘fun to be with’ guy:
Attractive women don’t want to be with just good looking guys, they want to be with a guy who is happening. Here I don’t suggest you to be comedian. Be someone that they can speculate and look forward to have fun with. Being nice predictable guys would not help. They have dozens of nice-predictable guys hitting on them all the time.
Personally, every time I approach a woman, I carry this “fun-to-be-with-guy” attitude. In reality, I have really awesome life and a woman would like to be with me, just because she would want to add more fun to it and to be a part of it. She’d not be with me because my life is boring and it would be interesting only if SHE brings fun to it – well, women do not do charity of this kind.
5. Have unshakable conviction for whatever you do:
If you are not proud of what you do, you are not proud of yourself and in turn, no one would be proud of you. Why an attractive woman would hang out with a guy who is not proud of what he does or is.
Conviction is powerful! Conviction for doing things; conviction for taking every step, it should be unshakable. And it’s cumulative, every new thing you would do, the chances are that you’d be even more convinced. Conviction gives a message that you don’t need any one’s approval. Isn’t it powerful? I personally believe that conviction is something that makes a man a real man. My unshakable conviction in everything I do is my shining armor!
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Now you are a fun-to-be-with-guy with unshakable conviction, who maintains hygiene, dresses well and does not get embarrassed in any situation. Tell me, what kind of woman would not like to be with you!
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PS:
Here are few basic things to work on-
1. Get an I-NEVER-get-embarrassed attitude:
A very rare many of guys have this attitude naturally. However with some work any one can acquire this. To get this attitude you need to work on yourself. Once you get this attitude, it would give you ultimate powerful confidence and you’d never hesitate to approach any women, even attractive ones.
This could be backbone of your confidence. You should be the guy who never (literally) get embarrassed. Yes, especially in front of a woman. Personally I use humor as a tool to come out of any embarrassing situation. I have gone though the worst of embarrassing scenarios mentally and prepared a humorous response for each one of the scenarios. I have tested some of them in real scenarios – sometime intentionally creating such scenarios. You can try humor. There could be other ways to get this attitude. So find your way of getting this attitude.
2. Maintain hygiene:
This is something that most of the guys suck big time at. Women in general maintain good hygiene and for the obvious reason they like men who maintain hygiene. And moreover by maintaining good hygiene, you’d start feeling good about yourself, which in turn would boost your confidence.
3. Be a good dresser:
Even if you are a socially-bankrupt-bald-headed-beer-belly guy, if you are a good dresser you still have chance with ladies. Good dressing is powerful and gives a message that you are a high status guy. You remember “the complete man” Raymond ad. Yes, women like men who dress well; and for that matter everybody likes you if you have good dressing sense. Good dresses cost as much as bad ones – be wise.
4. Become ‘fun to be with’ guy:
Attractive women don’t want to be with just good looking guys, they want to be with a guy who is happening. Here I don’t suggest you to be comedian. Be someone that they can speculate and look forward to have fun with. Being nice predictable guys would not help. They have dozens of nice-predictable guys hitting on them all the time.
Personally, every time I approach a woman, I carry this “fun-to-be-with-guy” attitude. In reality, I have really awesome life and a woman would like to be with me, just because she would want to add more fun to it and to be a part of it. She’d not be with me because my life is boring and it would be interesting only if SHE brings fun to it – well, women do not do charity of this kind.
5. Have unshakable conviction for whatever you do:
If you are not proud of what you do, you are not proud of yourself and in turn, no one would be proud of you. Why an attractive woman would hang out with a guy who is not proud of what he does or is.
Conviction is powerful! Conviction for doing things; conviction for taking every step, it should be unshakable. And it’s cumulative, every new thing you would do, the chances are that you’d be even more convinced. Conviction gives a message that you don’t need any one’s approval. Isn’t it powerful? I personally believe that conviction is something that makes a man a real man. My unshakable conviction in everything I do is my shining armor!
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Now you are a fun-to-be-with-guy with unshakable conviction, who maintains hygiene, dresses well and does not get embarrassed in any situation. Tell me, what kind of woman would not like to be with you!
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PS:
Even getting PhD in these
things would not guarantee you success with some women. Well, do not give up.
There are other kind of interesting women out there waiting for a fun-to-be-with
guy, don’t disappoint them!
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