What do women really want?
This has been the most sought after question for men from all over the world for forever.
Google “Sir Gawain and the Lady Ragnell” and you’d find this awesome story about King Arthur & a witch Ragnell. I would not put the story here, please Google it and read, it’s one of the most read stories on internet ever.
“What do women really want?” The answer given by the witch in the story is “They want to be in charge of their own life.” I read this story long back during my College time and was totally convinced that this is the most correct answer possible anyone would ever get.
If you ask me the same question today, I’d say – it was truer in last decade of 20th century than it is today.
In Indian context, 90’s brought a storm of changes that completely changed our way of thinking, doing things, even living. I am referring Science-Technology, Computer-IT here. And the most influential change that took place or rather took huge quantum jump was Women’s Empowerment. Late 90’s was time; Women’s Empowerment in India was at its peak. Just an FYI – The Government of India declared 2001 as the Year of Women’s Empowerment (Swashakti).
Today’s women, at least urban Indian women, don’t WANT to be in charge of their own life; because they know that they ARE in charge of their lives. They have got all the freedom in the world – socially, financially; they are in charge of their lives more than they ever were.
So “what is it that they want now?” The straight answer might be – Nothing!
Is it this simple?
.
Story 1:
BM asks the girl out. He asks her what she would like to do on a date. After many “I don’t know”’s. She tells that she’d like to watch movie “Jerry Maguire” in “Four Squire” theatre at Senapati Bapat road and later would like to have dinner at New Yorker at JM road. Women really know what they want!! Her favorite Actor’s movie, her favorite theatre, her favorite food and her favorite restaurant!
Well now BM has everything that he needs to know. He just needs to let her be in charge of this date. Guess what? The date goes exactly as it is meant to be. After dinner BM drops her at her place. Later BM calls up his best friend cum girl’s room mate and ask about the response that she got from the girl.
“He is nice and I had good time” is the response that she gets from the girl.
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What’s wrong here? He did exactly what she wants. And all he got is “He is nice…” It’s almost equal to “Thank You Bhai sahab!”
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Story 2:
BM asks the girl out. He picks her from her place. She – ‘where are we going?’ BM- ‘Let’s see.’ She is a little annoyed. She- ‘Why are we heading towards Swargate-Katraj road? I don’t like that road – it’s bumpy and moreover there is nothing exciting that side.’ BM just looks at her, smiles and shrugs his shoulder in ‘let’s see’ notion.
After long ride on Banglore-Pune highway, they reach at Balaji temple. She is a little annoyed that he has brought her at temple. BM doesn’t say her anything. She decides her own to take a visit of Lord Balaji. He stays outside temple [for BM doesn’t get along with God very well.] She does her pooja paath, comes back with Prasadam and gives him a lecture on how weird he is for not going inside the temple.
They ride another couple of miles along Banglore-Pune highway and then take right towards valley. BM clicks a couple of her photos along. They go a little further and they have small huts surrounded by those rose fields – red, pink, white, yellow roses. He stops the bike and she is like ‘what do you want to do here?’
BM sees this red rose field some 100 meters from where they are standing; there is this guy, supposedly owner of the field, some 100 meters from the field to other side. BM looks at field; the owner looks at BM. They know what’s on the cards.
Men are very intuitive when it comes to competition or marking territory [not the way dogs mark their territory ;) ] They understand each other without saying a word. She doesn’t have any idea? BM runs towards the field and the owner runs towards field too from other side. They both have almost same distance to accomplish their missions. Now she gets the idea what are these men up to.
Any way BM beats owner by 20 meters. BM leaves there a Rs.50 note with Mr. Gandhi smiling on it, thinking the rose field owner would have similar smile when he would find it later. BM starts bike back to city.
During whole journey back to city, she is giving him lecture on what he did was not right; he would have been caught and things could have gotten nasty. He can get a rose from flower shop for Rs.20.
By 7 PM they are back in city. BM takes her to PPDP (paani puri dahi puri) at Bharati back market. He lets her pay. They have ice-cream after PPDP, she wanted ice cream. She pays the exact amount. He drops her at her place and comes back to his apartment.
BM’s best friend cum girl’s room mate calls him “What have you done to her? She’s gone mad. She has converted whole apartment into dance floor cum play ground.”
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She doesn’t want to ride bike on a bumpy road. She doesn’t want to be with a guy who steals or creates unnecessary conflicts. She doesn’t want a guy who lets her pay.
But she liked everything or at least whole package.
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Women might not LIKE what they WANT.
“Women want YOU to figure out what they LIKE; they want YOU to do it for them.”
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
I’d never get an advice from a woman on approaching women or about dating. It’s not that she’d give me a wrong advice. She’d tell me exactly what she expects/wants from a guy. And by doing this she’d actually do her best to help me. But unfortunately, that’s perfect recipe for disaster, especially if woman I am approaching is really attractive. Because attractive women are used to of getting what they want; everybody is running around them to fulfill their wish.
It’s not about what she SHOULD like. It’s about what she actually likes.
In our real life, there are 1000′s of things that should work a particular way but they don’t. Government should do this…Traffic Police should do that…Postman should do this…Neighbors should do that… And we do almost everything considering the way these things actually work and we never take a single step considering the way they SHOULD work. That’s exactly we need to think and do when it comes to dealing with women. Do what works with them and never bother about what should work.
This has been the most sought after question for men from all over the world for forever.
Google “Sir Gawain and the Lady Ragnell” and you’d find this awesome story about King Arthur & a witch Ragnell. I would not put the story here, please Google it and read, it’s one of the most read stories on internet ever.
“What do women really want?” The answer given by the witch in the story is “They want to be in charge of their own life.” I read this story long back during my College time and was totally convinced that this is the most correct answer possible anyone would ever get.
If you ask me the same question today, I’d say – it was truer in last decade of 20th century than it is today.
In Indian context, 90’s brought a storm of changes that completely changed our way of thinking, doing things, even living. I am referring Science-Technology, Computer-IT here. And the most influential change that took place or rather took huge quantum jump was Women’s Empowerment. Late 90’s was time; Women’s Empowerment in India was at its peak. Just an FYI – The Government of India declared 2001 as the Year of Women’s Empowerment (Swashakti).
Today’s women, at least urban Indian women, don’t WANT to be in charge of their own life; because they know that they ARE in charge of their lives. They have got all the freedom in the world – socially, financially; they are in charge of their lives more than they ever were.
So “what is it that they want now?” The straight answer might be – Nothing!
Is it this simple?
.
Story 1:
BM asks the girl out. He asks her what she would like to do on a date. After many “I don’t know”’s. She tells that she’d like to watch movie “Jerry Maguire” in “Four Squire” theatre at Senapati Bapat road and later would like to have dinner at New Yorker at JM road. Women really know what they want!! Her favorite Actor’s movie, her favorite theatre, her favorite food and her favorite restaurant!
Well now BM has everything that he needs to know. He just needs to let her be in charge of this date. Guess what? The date goes exactly as it is meant to be. After dinner BM drops her at her place. Later BM calls up his best friend cum girl’s room mate and ask about the response that she got from the girl.
“He is nice and I had good time” is the response that she gets from the girl.
–
What’s wrong here? He did exactly what she wants. And all he got is “He is nice…” It’s almost equal to “Thank You Bhai sahab!”
–
Story 2:
BM asks the girl out. He picks her from her place. She – ‘where are we going?’ BM- ‘Let’s see.’ She is a little annoyed. She- ‘Why are we heading towards Swargate-Katraj road? I don’t like that road – it’s bumpy and moreover there is nothing exciting that side.’ BM just looks at her, smiles and shrugs his shoulder in ‘let’s see’ notion.
After long ride on Banglore-Pune highway, they reach at Balaji temple. She is a little annoyed that he has brought her at temple. BM doesn’t say her anything. She decides her own to take a visit of Lord Balaji. He stays outside temple [for BM doesn’t get along with God very well.] She does her pooja paath, comes back with Prasadam and gives him a lecture on how weird he is for not going inside the temple.
They ride another couple of miles along Banglore-Pune highway and then take right towards valley. BM clicks a couple of her photos along. They go a little further and they have small huts surrounded by those rose fields – red, pink, white, yellow roses. He stops the bike and she is like ‘what do you want to do here?’
BM sees this red rose field some 100 meters from where they are standing; there is this guy, supposedly owner of the field, some 100 meters from the field to other side. BM looks at field; the owner looks at BM. They know what’s on the cards.
Men are very intuitive when it comes to competition or marking territory [not the way dogs mark their territory ;) ] They understand each other without saying a word. She doesn’t have any idea? BM runs towards the field and the owner runs towards field too from other side. They both have almost same distance to accomplish their missions. Now she gets the idea what are these men up to.
Any way BM beats owner by 20 meters. BM leaves there a Rs.50 note with Mr. Gandhi smiling on it, thinking the rose field owner would have similar smile when he would find it later. BM starts bike back to city.
During whole journey back to city, she is giving him lecture on what he did was not right; he would have been caught and things could have gotten nasty. He can get a rose from flower shop for Rs.20.
By 7 PM they are back in city. BM takes her to PPDP (paani puri dahi puri) at Bharati back market. He lets her pay. They have ice-cream after PPDP, she wanted ice cream. She pays the exact amount. He drops her at her place and comes back to his apartment.
BM’s best friend cum girl’s room mate calls him “What have you done to her? She’s gone mad. She has converted whole apartment into dance floor cum play ground.”
–
She doesn’t want to ride bike on a bumpy road. She doesn’t want to be with a guy who steals or creates unnecessary conflicts. She doesn’t want a guy who lets her pay.
But she liked everything or at least whole package.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Women might not LIKE what they WANT.
“Women want YOU to figure out what they LIKE; they want YOU to do it for them.”
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
I’d never get an advice from a woman on approaching women or about dating. It’s not that she’d give me a wrong advice. She’d tell me exactly what she expects/wants from a guy. And by doing this she’d actually do her best to help me. But unfortunately, that’s perfect recipe for disaster, especially if woman I am approaching is really attractive. Because attractive women are used to of getting what they want; everybody is running around them to fulfill their wish.
It’s not about what she SHOULD like. It’s about what she actually likes.
In our real life, there are 1000′s of things that should work a particular way but they don’t. Government should do this…Traffic Police should do that…Postman should do this…Neighbors should do that… And we do almost everything considering the way these things actually work and we never take a single step considering the way they SHOULD work. That’s exactly we need to think and do when it comes to dealing with women. Do what works with them and never bother about what should work.
If we come out of this SHOULD BE world and focus on what
works with women, things would be a lot easier!
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